From an early age, I grew up watching the popular 90’s American comedy Frasier almost every morning before school as my mum would usually have it on in the background. Immediately I was fascinated by the profession of the main character Frasier Crane, a radio talk show psychologist. Even though it is probably not the best source of Psychology facts or information, I was instantly hooked, and I knew I too wanted to study Psychology. I bought second-hand text books from Car boot sales (or Flea markets for any Americans reading this) and immersed myself in the fascinating topic. At the age of 15 I chose to study it at college (Late high school for you Americans again, 16-18 years) where I obtained top marks and later took it at University and graduated with the highest possible grade.
Since the conception of advertising, we have been exposed to a prodigious number of adverts on daily basis with the primary goal being to influence our thoughts, behaviors, and above all our purchasing decisions. Naturally with this type of intention many adverts have attracted a large amount of controversy whilst attempting to grab our intention. Potentially one of the key concerns within modern advertising and media in general is it’s influence on young women and how women are represented.
I live and work in a hostel, an environment full of young and active individuals. In many ways, hostels are a fantastic location to witness people from all backgrounds socializing and mingling. However, it is also a common occurrence to see the exact opposite. Large groups of people all hunched over their computers and phones silently focused in their own personal bubble. Because of my work as a writer, I am frequently a member of this quiet and anti-social crowd. There is always an exception and sometimes people just need to get their head down and work. However, in our day and age, this introverted group is worryingly common. I see a frightening amount of people prioritizing their attention towards their phone the moment it buzzes. In our modern society, we have eliminated any possibility of boredom assuming we have our phone (which we usually do) and a good internet connection.
For as long as I can remember I have almost always had a nightly battle switching my brain off to get a good night of rest. From Progressive Muscle Tension Relaxation to drinking many types of herbal teas, I have tried it all and I can honestly say very little has proven to be effective. With that in mind, my situation is not particularly life crippling. I almost always fall asleep after a while, even if it is after a few hours of my brain running through every imaginable scenario. Whilst dabbling in many possible sleep aids I also found multiple examples of what not to do for a good night sleep. As our attachment and love for technology grow, so does this list.
Many people think they know what will bring them happiness, and even more worryingly you will probably meet many people who think they know what it takes to make you happy and what you should do with your life to be happy. The truth is that nobody knows exactly what it takes. It can be a variety of things, both physical and psychological which varies from person to person. In many ways, Dictionary.com’s definition of happiness sums it up perfectly. Happiness is “The quality or state of being happy”, which is completely accurate yet sheds very little light on what this entails or how it occurs. Despite its elusive nature, recent research indicates links between what does and doesn’t make us happy.
Now is a very interesting time for women. Their image in the media, their progress regarding power and respect is ambiguous and conflicting. Over previous years progress has been made in certain areas. We are now seeing more and more women in greater positions of power such as Sheryl Sandberg at Facebook or Meg Whitman at HP. In 1981, women made up only 5.6 percent of the top one percent. In 2012 that figure was reported to be at 18.3 percent. Clearly, progress has been made here and women are gaining more and more power. Last year’s presidential election saw the first ever female candidate, Hilary Clinton, to make it to the penultimate position in the election race. Throughout the campaign, frequently brought up the topic of feminism, women in power, and women’s progress for equality were raised.
With 50 percent of all marriages now ending in divorce, it begs the question “Is the tradition relative in our modern society, or better still, why can so few of us no longer make it work?”. As a 24-year-old nomadic traveler, marriage is not currently the highest item on my to do list. With that being, I often ponder if this tradition is for me considering my parents are separated, as well as both of their parents. Don’t get me wrong, I still believe in love, but it appears to be so rare to find and so much harder to maintain in our modern world that I wonder if a happily ever after ending is a lottery that only a few of us are lucky enough to win.
Many studies indicated that we now have a higher expectation of what marriage should provide. For many of us, when we find that special someone, we now expect them to provide so much more than our previous generations. We rarely have the luxury of only one person needing to work to hold down a household, as a result this has become a shared responsibility which also adds to financial concerns. Along with household responsibilities we also expect our partner to be a source of unconditional trust, adventurous love, a constant source of support, and above all to fulfil our need for a close companion. In previous years, these roles are likely to have been spread out among multiple people. In addition to this, modern married individuals spend less time with friends, and family members compared with their single counterparts.
Our society has also encouraged a dangerous attitude of immediate gratification and expectation. With amazon prime giving us whatever we desire the very next day and Netflix releasing the whole series at once, we never need to wait. This expectation can infectiously spread to other areas of our lives leading us to believe that all our problems can be easily fixed. As a result, many couples are not willing to give marriage the same effort that many generations before us had too. Furthermore, ease of divorce has increased while the taboo surrounding divorce has notably decreased, increasing the appeal of taking the easy way out.
One final factor to consider is the amount of quality time partners spend with each other. This is a great indicator of a marriage’s success rate and over the previous year, we have seen the amount of quality time partners spend with each other decrease. Without this essential element marriages can often end up disappointing and unsatisfied.
The good news is that marriage isn’t dead. Despite the decline in its success at least half of all couples that make a go at it still manage to make it work. In our modern society, it is important to understand that we must give our relationships more effort, and above all more quality time for them to succeed. It is easy to get caught up in the modern rush with an overwhelming list of expectations from a partner.
We start doing things for a variety of reasons. Some start to drink out of curiosity or peer pressure; same goes to those who are introduced to illegal drugs. These substances are also used by some to relieve stress, or to feel relaxed. But is it possible to be too relaxed?
According to statistics, more two-thirds of families in the U.S. are affected by addiction. Alcohol is misused as something that people believe as something that can help them “escape” from their problems or help them forget about it for a small while. Same goes for illegal drugs, it starts out as just “trying it out” but ultimately ends up as an addiction.
Anxiety is an emotion characterized by an unpleasant inner turmoil, accompanied by nervous behavior — a feeling of uneasiness and worry. Almost everyone experienced anxiety. It is a normal reaction to stress. But when you’re experiencing intense anxiety and heightened fear along with other unpleasant physical symptoms on an extended period, it could be that you are suffering from an anxiety disorder. It is important to understand this early on because if left unchecked, could lead a person to other problems, more commonly alcohol and substance abuse and would need help with addiction among others.
We have all come far in this world and yet we all still struggle with self-esteem. Now, even though you don’t really think about your self-esteem right now, there have been times when it was a major issue. The problem is that there are so many reasons and lots of elements that contribute to these issues. Yes, you may feel good but many others are not as yet in that position. It is a worrying factor and something that needs to be addressed too. However, it seems there are fewer people who are willing to address self-esteem issues.
Why Has Self-Esteem Issues Become So Much Of A Problem?
To be honest, there are thousands who have self-esteem issues and it’s all down to how they see themselves. Now, when you look in the mirror you see you but that view of you might not be what you think it is. For example, you can look in the mirror and see a tall figure with blue eyes and long blonde hair but you don’t like what you see. Instead, you see someone who is fat, ugly, and generally someone you dislike. Why is this happening to thousands of people? It’s because of perception and how we each individually see ourselves. Do we like what we see? No, and yet we don’t do anything about it. Continue reading “Self-Esteem Issues” »