Now is a very interesting time for women. Their image in the media, their progress regarding power and respect is ambiguous and conflicting. Over previous years progress has been made in certain areas. We are now seeing more and more women in greater positions of power such as Sheryl Sandberg at Facebook or Meg Whitman at HP. In 1981, women made up only 5.6 percent of the top one percent. In 2012 that figure was reported to be at 18.3 percent. Clearly, progress has been made here and women are gaining more and more power. Last year’s presidential election saw the first ever female candidate, Hilary Clinton, to make it to the penultimate position in the election race. Throughout the campaign, frequently brought up the topic of feminism, women in power, and women’s progress for equality were raised.
With 50 percent of all marriages now ending in divorce, it begs the question “Is the tradition relative in our modern society, or better still, why can so few of us no longer make it work?”. As a 24-year-old nomadic traveler, marriage is not currently the highest item on my to do list. With that being, I often ponder if this tradition is for me considering my parents are separated, as well as both of their parents. Don’t get me wrong, I still believe in love, but it appears to be so rare to find and so much harder to maintain in our modern world that I wonder if a happily ever after ending is a lottery that only a few of us are lucky enough to win.
Many studies indicated that we now have a higher expectation of what marriage should provide. For many of us, when we find that special someone, we now expect them to provide so much more than our previous generations. We rarely have the luxury of only one person needing to work to hold down a household, as a result this has become a shared responsibility which also adds to financial concerns. Along with household responsibilities we also expect our partner to be a source of unconditional trust, adventurous love, a constant source of support, and above all to fulfil our need for a close companion. In previous years, these roles are likely to have been spread out among multiple people. In addition to this, modern married individuals spend less time with friends, and family members compared with their single counterparts.
Our society has also encouraged a dangerous attitude of immediate gratification and expectation. With amazon prime giving us whatever we desire the very next day and Netflix releasing the whole series at once, we never need to wait. This expectation can infectiously spread to other areas of our lives leading us to believe that all our problems can be easily fixed. As a result, many couples are not willing to give marriage the same effort that many generations before us had too. Furthermore, ease of divorce has increased while the taboo surrounding divorce has notably decreased, increasing the appeal of taking the easy way out.
One final factor to consider is the amount of quality time partners spend with each other. This is a great indicator of a marriage’s success rate and over the previous year, we have seen the amount of quality time partners spend with each other decrease. Without this essential element marriages can often end up disappointing and unsatisfied.
The good news is that marriage isn’t dead. Despite the decline in its success at least half of all couples that make a go at it still manage to make it work. In our modern society, it is important to understand that we must give our relationships more effort, and above all more quality time for them to succeed. It is easy to get caught up in the modern rush with an overwhelming list of expectations from a partner.
We have all come far in this world and yet we all still struggle with self-esteem. Now, even though you don’t really think about your self-esteem right now, there have been times when it was a major issue. The problem is that there are so many reasons and lots of elements that contribute to these issues. Yes, you may feel good but many others are not as yet in that position. It is a worrying factor and something that needs to be addressed too. However, it seems there are fewer people who are willing to address self-esteem issues.
Why Has Self-Esteem Issues Become So Much Of A Problem?
To be honest, there are thousands who have self-esteem issues and it’s all down to how they see themselves. Now, when you look in the mirror you see you but that view of you might not be what you think it is. For example, you can look in the mirror and see a tall figure with blue eyes and long blonde hair but you don’t like what you see. Instead, you see someone who is fat, ugly, and generally someone you dislike. Why is this happening to thousands of people? It’s because of perception and how we each individually see ourselves. Do we like what we see? No, and yet we don’t do anything about it. Continue reading “Self-Esteem Issues” »